Empaths

What is an empath? Well, an empath is someone who feels and absorbs the energy around them. These are the people sometimes deemed as sensitive, anxious, depressed, or socially awkward but also as healers, problem solvers and intuitive. Because empaths not only deeply experience their own emotions, energy and environment, but that of others as well, it is common for many empaths to internalize what they experience, which can lead to physical pain and illness and all sorts of fun mental and emotional defense mechanisms. With an innate and highly sensitive intuition, empaths are sometimes drawn to heal, fix and problem solve, yet can also be withdrawn and don't often ask for help. As children, empaths learn very young that they have to protect themselves from the energies that they are experiencing. This self defense develops differently for everyone but many find ways to create distance between themselves and others (emotionally, physically and mentally). Some turn to drugs or alcohol, some isolate or retreat, some create mental habits that fly under the radar of their own consciousness such as creating themselves as separate and alone/misunderstood, the fear of being alone and yet creating it that way. There's a plethora of ways in which empaths unconsciously and consciously "protect" themselves from experiencing the energies around them. This gift can often feel like a burden and very lonely, but it does not have to.

After searching for some good info on empaths, I have found that much of it has an underlying current of fear. Protection, protection, protection. Which automatically creates us as victims. It is very important for empaths to learn how to ground in their own energy, notice the energy of others and create practices for themselves to clear their energy fields and channel their light, but rather than being at effect of the energy of the world around us, we have the opportunity to harness this incredible gift. The first and most powerful step in owning this beautiful gift is choosing to own it. That means creating yourself as the designer of your life, body and energy and not creating yourself as a victim. You choose not to be a victim to the crowd that is overwhelming you, to not be a victim to the negative person sitting next to you, to not be a victim to stressful family situations (family can be especially challenging for empaths because of the close bonds). Thoughts become things. You're choice has the power to create your reality. It shifts your energy. Instead of choosing fear, self defense or self sabotage, you are choosing your power.

Here are some tips and tricks to being a healthy, powerful empath:

Grounding: consciously centering into your own body, connecting yourself into the earth and sending all that is not yours down to be recycled into more prana or life force. 

- go barefoot preferably outside in the dirt, sand, grass etc but also on a wood floor. Consciously connect yourself to the earth. 

- Clench In and up your lower chakras or Mula Bandha (sex organs and anus) creating a root lock (a lot like kegeling) 

Noticing the energy of others: begin to consciously observe how it feels when you are around other people. What can you pick up on? What do you feel? Honing this skill can be incredibly helpful in discerning what energies are yours and which ones are others, as well as seeing how certain energies effect you. Awareness opens the door for power. You can not change what you can't see. Get curious and start noticing! 

Clearing practices: everyone is different and I suggest trying a few and seeing which ones resonate with you the most. 

- smudging: using the smoke of sage, incense, Copal, Palo Santo wood, or even breath to clear stagnant or negative energy. 

- brushing your entire body down with your hands

- shake it out. Shake and move your entire body, moving the energy out of your system

- jump into the ocean

- take a bath with Epsom salts 

- Angel Wings (take a deep breath in, lifting your arms out like wings. Blow out all that is not yours, using your arms/wings scoop it all up, bending all the way down to the ground and as you come up, toss it into the air and turn it into fairy dust.)

How to sense/scan your own energy body: every empath holds or stores energy in different places in the body but the two most common areas are the chest and abdomen. First identify where in your body you store most often. Do you get stomach aches, bloat or gassiness? Or maybe you get tension or pain in your chest or feel a heaviness on it sometimes. At any given moment you can take a deep breath, close your eyes and notice what is going on in your body. Where are you holding tension, bloat, pain, heaviness? From there, you can practice any of the clearing exercises above or channel your light as described below. 

Channelling your light: your light is your inner power, your inner life force. It is love. It is your best friend and your super power, not just as an empath but as a human and a being of light. You can channel this light by consciously focusing on your energy. Your breath is the easiest way to tune you into your energy so begin with slow, deep breaths. Then focusing on the movement of the blood in your veins, the beat of your heart, envision your whole body emanating a warm, white light. This white light is love, it is your power, it is your guide and your protector. It is not a shield or shell but an energy that transmutes and transforms. When I am in a situation where I need to ground myself and turn on my light (I call it my light wetsuit) I take a deep breath, focus on my energy and most importantly on the love residing in my heart just waiting to be accessed. As my dear friend and resident cacao goddess, Nola Ganem teaches, find the smile in your heart and let it shine outward. 

To the many, many, many sweet, lovely, powerful empaths out there, this is a calling. For you to step into your light, own your power and radiate your love. Stop choosing to be a victim to other people, places and the universe. The universe only has your best interest and highest good at heart, so chose to trust that and your own ability to harness this beautiful gift. It is not a burden but a super power. Whether conscious or unconscious, everything is a choice. So bring it to consciousness and choose your power.  As you do, life becomes easier, brighter, and so much more magical. Your intuition begins to expand, your heart begins to expand and your capacity to be with ALL of it begins to expand. So, get to know your gift, love it, own it and shine bright beautiful being, shine bright. 

 

Please, please share your own experiences, resources and questions below. We all learn the most from one another.

New Favorite Finds

 

A Few of My New Favorite Finds...

 

Where to ShopZenabelle

 Zenabelle is an all natural "Eco Chic" beauty boutique in beautiful downtown Bristol. It carries popular brands such as Naturopathica, Dr. Hauschka, and Weleda, plus some amazing lesser known natural finds. From body care, skincare, and makeup to natural deodorant (that actually works!), nail polish and nutritional supplements, this boutique has it all!

 

Stay Informed: GoodGuideEWG

GoodGuide is a great resource that rates products and companies on their health, environmental, and social performance. GoodGuide's 0 to 10 rating system helps consumers quickly evaluate and compare products. 

EWG or Environmental Working Group empowers people to live healthier lives in a healthier environment by making it possible for them to make informed, knowledgeable decisions. In particular, check out their Skin Deep Cosmetics Database for reviews and info on all of your favorite products.

 

Yummy, Healthy Meal: The Beehive Cafe

Also in Bristol, RI, this little cafe is my new favorite place to eat. Down-to-earth, friendly staff and insanely delicious food; this place is a gem. Just around the block from Zenabelle, this special little cafe is passionate about sourcing locally and even has a program that allows locals to trade their homegrown produce for credit on their personal Beehive Barter account! 

 

Meditation and Spiritual Counseling: Under The Sun or "Meditation Bob"

 A regular meditation practice can be a powerful means of changing your life. Bob has been practicing for over 40 years and is a wonderful, kind, and profoundly knowledgeable guide who has a wide range of expertise. Whether you are in search of spiritual guidance, guided meditation, personal or couples counseling, Bob is the perfect person to talk to. 

 

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Live Your Life With Love,

Emily

Be Gentle With Yourself

Far too often we are critical, judgemental or cruel to ourselves. Negative thinking is harmful to every aspect of our being. It creates negative thought patterns which hinder us from seeing our true selves, from living in the light. It creates negative energy which pools in our cells and like stress, damages those cells. Breaking those negative thought patterns can free you. When you find yourself being critical or hard on yourself or others,  gently remind yourself to release the negativity, it does not serve you. Release the negativity, it does not serve you.  

Change the conversation with yourself. Appreciate your unique individuality, your unique beauty. There is only one you and you are beautiful. Take time for yourself everyday. You can not be the best version of yourself unless you take care of yourself. You can not be the best partner you can be, the best parent you can be, the best at what you do for a living, you can not give of yourself without first making sure that you are caring for yourself. Listen to your body, if you are tired, rest. Listen to your heart, your soul, your own intuition. This is the heart of holistic health; getting to know, addressing and caring for your mind, body and soul. You will be amazed at how your life will change when you simply, love yourself. 

 

Live Your Life With Love,

Emily 

 

 

Reiki

I am so excited to start down the next path in my professional journey. Two weeks ago I joined an amazing group of healers in completing our Level 2 Reiki Training at Tenth Gate Yoga. It was invigorating and heart warming to meet so many beautiful, gifted, enlightened people and to share with one another the inspiring power of Reiki. 

Energy work is something that I have been practicing in my treatments instinctively for years but I never had an understanding or the knowledge behind my tool. There are many different forms of energy work and many different names, but at the center of it all is a healing, loving exchange.

"Rei" means transcendental spirit, universal power or the spiritual dimension of the soul.

"Ki" is the vital life force energy which flows through all things. Also known as Chi or Prana

Reiki is the energy of life itself. The Ushi System of Reiki is a healing technique that reawkens and elevates this energy, channeling it from the Universe into oneself or others. It is never harmful and is available to everyone. Everyone experiences Reiki differently but ultimately it is a soothing, relaxing treatment which helps to calm the mind, body and soul. If you are interested and wish to learn more, please feel free to contact me. 

Live your life with love,

Emily